The Effect of Sexuality and Monogamy on Sexual Permissiveness and Relationship Infidelity

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    • Has sexual intercourse occured between you and your partner or partners? If you have multiple partners, please describe your answer in the space below.
  • Yes
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    The Effect of Sexuality and Monogamy on Sexual Permissiveness and Relationship Infidelity
    Choice Total Percent
    1. After reading the above statement, do you give your consent to participate in this study? (Required)    
       I affirm that I have read and understood the above statement and have had all of my questions answered 60 100%
       No, I do not give my consent to participate in this study. 0 0%
    Total Number of Choices60 
    2. How would you identify your gender?    
       Male 9 15%
       Female 48 80%
       Other 3 5%
    Total Number of Choices60 
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    111492. Queer
    111597. intergendered
    111613. FTM transgender
    3. What is your age?    
       18-25 16 26%
       26-33 33 54%
       33-40 9 15%
       40-47 0 0%
       Other 3 5%
    Total Number of Choices61 
    Text Results
    111489. 55
    111650. just to explain I'm 33
    111678. 16
    111704. 55
    4. What is your ethnicity?    
       White/Caucasian 53 87%
       African American 3 5%
       Asian American 1 2%
       American Indian/Native American 0 0%
       Mexican American 1 2%
       Other 3 5%
    Total Number of Choices61 
    Text Results
    111597. Pacific Islander
    111632. Anglo-Indian
    111798. White British
    The Sexual Attitudes Scale

    Please respond to the following questions in relation to yourself. If you answer yes, it means that you support the statement. If you answer no, it means you do not support the statement.         		   
    5. I do not need to be committed in a relationship to a person to have sex with him/her.    
       Yes 39 65%
       No 21 35%
    Total Number of Choices60 
    6. Casual sex is acceptable.    
       Yes 45 75%
       No 15 25%
    Total Number of Choices60 
    7. I would like to have sex with many partners.    
       Yes 27 44%
       No 34 56%
    Total Number of Choices61 
    8. One night stands can be very enjoyable.    
       Yes 34 58%
       No 25 42%
    Total Number of Choices59 
    9. It is okay to have ongoing sexual relationships with more than one person at a time.    
       Yes 37 62%
       No 23 38%
    Total Number of Choices60 
    10. Sex as a simple exchange of favors is okay if both people agree to it.    
       Yes 42 70%
       No 18 30%
    Total Number of Choices60 
    11. The best sex occurs with no strings attached.    
       Yes 4 7%
       No 55 93%
    Total Number of Choices59 
    12. Sex for its own sake is perfectly fine.    
       Yes 44 73%
       No 16 27%
    Total Number of Choices60 
    13. I would feel comfortable having intercourse with my partner in the presence of other people.    
       Yes 25 42%
       No 35 58%
    Total Number of Choices60 
    14. Sex without love is meaningless.    
       Yes 16 27%
       No 43 73%
    Total Number of Choices59 
    15. People should at least be friends before they have sex together.    
       Yes 41 67%
       No 20 33%
    Total Number of Choices61 
    16. In order for sex to be good, it must also be meaningful.    
       Yes 22 37%
       No 38 63%
    Total Number of Choices60 
    17. A sexual encounter between two people deeply in love is the ultimate human interaction.    
       Yes 37 62%
       No 23 38%
    Total Number of Choices60 
    18. Sexual techniques get better as a relationship progresses. (Sex gets better as the relationship progresses.)    
       Yes 51 85%
       No 9 15%
    Total Number of Choices60 
    19. Sex is the closest form of communication between two people.    
       Yes 23 38%
       No 37 62%
    Total Number of Choices60 
    20. Orgasm is the greatest experience in the world.    
       Yes 16 27%
       No 44 73%
    Total Number of Choices60 
    21. Life without sex would be very dull. (Sex is a very important part of life.)    
       Yes 47 78%
       No 13 22%
    Total Number of Choices60 
    22. Please insert here any comments or questions you have about the above section of questions.    
    Total Number of Comments16 
    • (288802) - Safe and consented sex is always permissable, even for the sake of sex itself.
    • (115154) - I make a distinction between what I find acceptable for myself, and what I find acceptable for people in general. I don't have a problem with casual sex in general, it's just not for me.
    • (113272) - Sex with or without the orgasm means nothing without truely loving your partner
    • (112008) - #18 is asking two different questions - I would say techniques get better, knowledge of partner gets better, but NRE fades, so sex not necessarily better per se.
    • (111841) - Sex can be and do all sorts of things. I don't care what or how it is, so long as all people involved agree to it and the situation.
    • (111719) - I found that some of these questions can not be answered accurately with a simple yes or no response.
    • (111704) - 13. It depends on who the other people are and what attitude they have towards us having sex in their presence!
    • (111678) - I have none,
    • (111640) - It's sometimes hard to pick yes or no. It really depends on each particular situation.
    • (111632) - Re #7 - no specific desire to seek out many partners, but rather to explore the connections that I find as I move through life. Re #18 - this can go both ways, as experience and understanding come with a risk of complacency!
    • (111626) - sex is best when it's meaningful between 2 people in love but it doesn't mean that a one night stand can't be hot and enjoyable!
    • (111607) - I prefer sex with very close friends and/or a romantic partner.
    • (111598) - My answers are totally contadictory...but I am 50-50 about sex and long term relationship (been married for 2 years)
    • (111586) - Question 5 should have Agree or Disagree as the answer choices. As it is there is more than one way to read the question.
    • (111561) - In reference to question 9, I would be okay with being polyamorous if I found more than one person that I loved deeply, but so far, this has not happened.
    • (111463) - Sex is great, but it's not everything
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    The following questions are pertaining to your relationship history. These questions are mandatory.    
    23. Are you currently involved in a relationship? (Required)    
       Yes 58 94%
       No 1 2%
       Other 3 5%
    Total Number of Choices62 
    Text Results
    111632. Multiple relationships
    111704. two primary relationships
    111955. not sure...
    24. Have you ever been involved in a relationship? (Required)    
       Yes 60 100%
       No 0 0%
       Other 0 0%
    Total Number of Choices60 
    If you are not currently in a relationship, please skip to question 31.    
    25. Has sexual intercourse occured between you and your partner or partners? If you have multiple partners, please describe your answer in the space below.    
       Yes 60 88%
       No 1 1%
       Other 7 10%
    Total Number of Choices68 
    Text Results
    111463. One yes, regularly, the other (nearly 3 years together) no intercourse, due to some physical issues, but other oral/manual stimulation
    111484. While I have had sex with my husband, I havenot had sex with my BF yet.
    111487. While I have had sex with my husband, I havenot had sex with my BF yet.
    111551. Sexual intercourse has occurred between me and each (separately) of my three partners.
    111552. Yes, between 2 male partners, "sex" with one female partner, and no to sex with another male partner
    111597. yes, for all of them
    111632. All
    111704. All three of us have been sexual together
    111831. My husband and I engage in threesomes with one other woman
    26. Are you satisfied with your sex life?    
       Yes 43 70%
       No 16 26%
       Other 2 3%
    Total Number of Choices61 
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    111704. aging has affected my libido and I miss it
    112008. intermittently satisfied right now. Have been very satisfied with this partner.
    27. Are you currently in love?    
       Yes 55 92%
       No 2 3%
       Other 3 5%
    Total Number of Choices60 
    Text Results
    111632. With multiple people
    111955. it's leaning that way...
    28. Are you currently in love with multiple people?    
       Yes 15 25%
       No 44 73%
       Other 1 2%
    Total Number of Choices60 
    Text Results
    112008. don't get a chance to find out if I am in love with other potential partners.
    29. How would you classify your currently relationship?    
       Monogamous/exclusive (one partner) 35 57%
       Polyamorous/open (2+ partners) 15 25%
       Other 11 18%
    Total Number of Choices61 
    Text Results
    111489. M/s open to other slaves
    111586. Monogamous but open to play with others
    111592. currently monogamous, but open to nonmonogamous acts under the right circumstances.
    111597. I have multiple relationships, not one relationship.
    111607. I have one primary parter and we occassionally have sexual contact with close friends when all parties are informed and consent, even those not present.
    111613. currently monogamous in practical terms but open to future poly partners
    111831. open to females willing to participate in threesomes
    111841. mono but willing to discuss including others later on.
    111955. not sure...
    111993. physically monogamous, emotionaly poly/open
    30. What is your marital status?    
       Married 22 37%
       Single 28 47%
       Other 10 17%
    Total Number of Choices60 
    Text Results
    111561. engaged
    111576. live together
    111603. engaged
    111607. divorced; engaged
    111608. engaged
    111613. domestic partnership
    111632. De facto under law; no interest in marriage under the current laws
    111640. Engaged
    111678. In a relationship
    111704. legal civil partnership (UK)
    31. Have you ever had pre-marital sexual activity (this includes sexual intercourse, as well as oral sex, anal sex, and fingering/petting)?    
       Yes 60 100%
       No 0 0%
    Total Number of Choices60 
    Infidelity

    The following questions are in reference to activities performed outside of your current primary relationship if you are currently in a relationship or in reference to activities performed out of your last relationship if you are not currently in a relationship. Please check all that apply.         		   
    32. Outside of your current primary relationship, have you ever:    
       Kissed a member of the same sex 27 10%
       Kissed a member of the opposite sex 30 11%
       Had sexual intercourse with a member of the same sex 13 5%
       Had sexual intercourse with a member of the opposite sex 18 6%
       Performed oral sex on a member of the same sex 13 5%
       Performed oral sex on a member of the opposite sex 21 8%
       Received oral sex from a member of the same sex 15 5%
       Received oral sex from a member of the opposite sex 23 8%
       Received a hand job/been fingered from/by a member of the same sex 16 6%
       Received a hand job/been fingered from/by a member of the opposite sex 24 9%
       Given a hand job/fingering to a member of the same sex 16 6%
       Given a hand job/fingering to a member of the opposite sex 23 8%
       Been romantically/emotionally involved with a member of the same sex 15 5%
       Been romantically/emotionally involved with a member of the opposite sex 23 8%
       Other 3 1%
    Total Number of Choices280 
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    111607. petted & been patted by a member of the same sex
    111718. Hand holding.
    111798. Brief online friendship became more, and I terminated it as soon as I realised, and talked it through with my partner
    33. Does the person/ the people you're involved with know what your responses would be to the aforementioned questions?    
       Yes, to all 48 81%
       Yes, to some 5 8%
       No 5 8%
       Other 1 2%
    Total Number of Choices59 
    Text Results
    111575. not currently involved
    34. Would you consider anything done outside a relationship as cheating? If so, what? Please type your answer in the other box. (Required)    
       Yes 29 44%
       No 10 15%
       Other 27 41%
    Total Number of Choices66 
    Text Results
    111463. If you never tell your partner(s) about it - I always do the next time I talk to them (we don't have the check-first rule)
    111484. It would be cheating if my partners didn't know what was going on, or if I went against stated agreements (such as having unprotected sex with anyone other than my husband).
    111487. It would be cheating if my partners didn't know what was going on, or if I went against stated agreements (such as having unprotected sex with anyone other than my husband).
    111489. cheating if kept secret
    111492. If there were no agreements negotiated and followed, then it would be cheating
    111498. It depends wholly on the terms of the relationship.
    111503. It's only cheating if the other partner isnt in agreement with what is happening.
    111522. Anything that does not fit the parameters agreed to by the partners in the relationship.
    111534. ANYTHING where there is a strong physical or emotional connection with someone as more than a friend.
    111542. all the above in ques. 32
    111551. Anything done outside of the relationship that my partners would have a problem with would be considered cheating to me.
    111552. Anything not negotiated. It doesn't have to be ahead of time, but my partner has to know what's going on with me and someone else or it's cheating.
    111561. It depends on the agreement between all parties involved.
    111574. Anything is cheating if the person lies about it, even if it is just flirting
    111575. something the other person didn't know about/approve of
    111576. It wouldn't be if the other knew about it before it happened.
    111586. As long as each partner is aware of and agrees to the others actions, there is no cheating going on.
    111592. yes, if it wasn't something we'd agreed upon ahead of time
    111597. anything done without the consent of one's other partners
    111598. everything except kissing if it is not passionate and meaningless
    111600. anything other than a kiss
    111607. Cheating is defined by the people involved. Betraying someone's trust (ie. breaking pre-decided terms) is cheating.
    111613. Anything that goes against explicitly made prior agreements
    111626. if the partner has not consented, then it's cheating.
    111632. Cheating is violation of agreements, so can occur in polyamorous relationships. If, for example, I started sleeping with someone without letting my partners know, or violated our safer sex agreements, I would have cheated. Informed consent is the key.
    111640. It would be considered cheating if your relationship partner did not know about it and you did not discuss it with your relationship partner.
    111650. I only consider it cheating if primary does not know about it
    111651. Any of the items in question 32.
    111704. Whenever it breaks a relationship agreement
    111719. Question is unclear. Define "anything".
    111737. No- not if it's done in fun AND in front of the S.O/spouse with their approval
    111800. anything your partner is not aware of ahead of time and has had time to discuss with you
    111831. sex with another man
    111841. if the other person doesn't know- yes.
    111955. perhaps less than "cheating" but certainly a betrayal of trust...
    111993. Any involvement without one's partner(s) full knowledge and consent
    112008. not if partner is aware of outside activities
    113719. Making out with or participating in any sexual activity with anyone other than myself without first clearing it with me would be cheating.
    288802. Prostitutes can offer that little niche you can't get within the relationship.
    The following questions will ask you to describe your sexual preference and identity. Please select only one option that describes you best.    
    35. How would you describe your sexual attraction. Who are you sexually attracted to?    
       Opposite sex only 10 16%
       Opposite sex mostly 16 25%
       Opposite sex somewhat more 11 17%
       Both sexes equally 14 22%
       Same sex somewhat more 4 6%
       Same sex mostly 2 3%
       Same sex only 0 0%
       Other 6 10%
    Total Number of Choices63 
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    111492. I am attracted to people, not genders
    111592. it's complicated
    111607. I am more physically attracted to the same sex, and more emotionally attracted to the opposite sex.
    111613. Mostly women, occasionally men
    111632. Attracted to people, not genders
    111704. dominant partners of either sex in preference to submissive partners of either sex
    36. With whom do you have sex?    
       Opposite sex only 22 35%
       Opposite sex mostly 18 29%
       Opposite sex somewhat more 7 11%
       Both sexes equally 6 10%
       Same sex somewhat more 0 0%
       Same sex mostly 1 2%
       Same sex only 1 2%
       Other 7 11%
    Total Number of Choices62 
    Text Results
    111484. This has ben the situation thus far, but I'm open to that changing in the future.
    111487. This has ben the situation thus far, but I'm open to that changing in the future.
    111492. Queer people do not fit into any of these categories.
    111551. I'm open to an experience with a man, it just hasn't happened yet.
    111566. Only one peron
    111576. Would consider same sex
    111592. it's complicated
    111607. I have a primary relationship with a member of the opposite sex, but sometimes am involved with members of the same sex.
    111613. Mostly women, occasionally men
    111798. Partner is transgendered
    37. The third variable is sexual fantasy. Whether they occur during masturbation, while daydreaming, as part of our real lives or purely in our imaginations, fantasies provide insight. Who do you have sexual fantasies about?    
       Opposite sex only 9 14%
       Opposite sex mostly 12 19%
       Opposite sex somewhat more 12 19%
       Both sexes equally 14 22%
       Same sex somewhat more 6 9%
       Same sex mostly 5 8%
       Same sex only 0 0%
       Other 6 9%
    Total Number of Choices64 
    Text Results
    111461. transexuals
    111492. Queer people do not fit into these categories.
    111498. I am not usually in my own fantasies.
    111586. My fantasies are often homosexual in nature, either male or female, and often do not include me.
    111704. being submissive
    111798. Varies - often go through short or long cycles
    38. Our emotions directly influence, if not define, the actual physical act of love. Ask yourself if you love and like only the opposite sex or if you are also emotionally close to the same sex. Who are you emotionally attracted to?    
       Opposite sex only 9 15%
       Opposite sex mostly 12 20%
       Opposite sex somewhat more 10 16%
       Both sexes equally 18 30%
       Same sex somewhat more 6 10%
       Same sex mostly 3 5%
       Same sex only 0 0%
       Other 3 5%
    Total Number of Choices61 
    Text Results
    111492. Queer people do not fit into any of these categories.
    111607. I have significantly more same-sex friendships and moderately more opposite sex romantic partners
    111613. Exclusively women, so far
    111719. This question is also unclear. Are you referring to past relationships or who I will be attracted to in the future?
    39. Though closely allied to emotional preference, social preference is often different. You may love only women but spend most of your social life with men. Some people, of all orientations, only socialize with their own sex, while others socialize with the opposite gender exclusively. Who do you socialize with?    
       Opposite sex only 2 3%
       Opposite sex mostly 6 10%
       Opposite sex somewhat more 15 25%
       Both sexes equally 21 36%
       Same sex somewhat more 11 19%
       Same sex mostly 3 5%
       Same sex only 0 0%
       Other 1 2%
    Total Number of Choices59 
    Text Results
    111492. Queer people do not fit into any of these categories.
    40. Your sexual self-definition is a strong variable since self-image strongly affects our thoughts and actions. How would you identify youself?    
       Heterosexual only 12 19%
       Heterosexual mostly 10 16%
       Heterosexual somewhat more 1 2%
       Bisexual 30 48%
       Gay somewhat more 1 2%
       Gay mostly 1 2%
       Gay only 0 0%
       Other 7 11%
    Total Number of Choices62 
    Text Results
    111461. pansexual
    111492. Queer.
    111586. Pansexual. I don't care what parts you have in what combination.
    111592. it varies
    111603. no preference
    111632. Queer
    111704. submissive
    111719. I do not identify with any of these labels.
    41. Some heterosexuals only have sex with the opposite sex but prefer to spend the majority of their time with gay people. On the other hand, homosexual or bisexual persons may prefer to live exclusively in the gay world, the heterosexual world, or even to live in both worlds. Lifestyle is the seventh variable of sexual orientation. Where do you tend to spend time and with whom?    
       Heterosexual only 2 3%
       Heterosexual mostly 12 18%
       Heterosexual somewhat more 25 38%
       Bisexual 12 18%
       Gay somewhat more 3 5%
       Gay mostly 0 0%
       Gay only 0 0%
       Other 12 18%
    Total Number of Choices66 
    Text Results
    111461. pretty well split but still mostly men in general
    111484. It varies greatly. I have friends all up and down the sexuality spectrum and it's not really a factor in who I am friends with.
    111487. It varies greatly. I have friends all up and down the sexuality spectrum and it's not really a factor in who I am friends with.
    111492. Queer people do not fit into any of these categories.
    111575. pretty equal mix of everyone
    111586. My oreference is mixed company, but right now it seems like I am spending too much time with heteros.
    111607. Statistically, more of my friends are straight than bi and more are bi than gay, but bisexuality is treated like a default.
    111610. it varies... no set answer for me
    111632. A mix of all of the above as well as queer, trans, etc.
    111719. Sexual identity is not a factor when I make friends with a person.
    111798. In previous location, predominantly bi, gay, and trans social group; very few out people in this area
    111841. It's all one world. But since I'm married most of those around me are hetero, the gay world doesn't always accept me and it's hard to find Bi.
    113719. My social circle consists of an equarl array of gay, heterosexual, and bisexual individuals.
    42. Your feedback is very important. Please fill in the comment box below if you have any suggestions or constructive criticism. Also feel free to e-mail the researcher at cjones28@towson.edu if you would like a one-on-one discussion in more depth about this project. Thanks for participating!    
    Total Number of Comments6 
    • (288802) - Hopefully the results help you.
    • (112008) - i'm finding it easiest to answer when drunk. i think that says more about me than about your survey though.
    • (111718) - On the subject of Fantasies how does sensual ones (ones that do not involve any of the actions you described) fit into your survey?
    • (111704) - On the subject of cheating - it can only be defined for me in terms of breaking of agreements. If I agree to ask permission before having sex with someone, for example, and then go ahead without asking then that's cheating!
    • (111626) - i'm assuming that in question 32, "outside of the relationship" means things you've done outside the relationship while in the relationship and not before or after?
    • (111598) - Good luck with your research!!! Survey was done really well!
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