The Effect of Sexuality and Monogamy on Sexual Permissiveness and Relationship Infidelity

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The Effect of Sexuality and Monogamy on Sexual Permissiveness and Relationship Infidelity
Choice Total Percent
1. After reading the above statement, do you give your consent to participate in this study? (Required)    
   I affirm that I have read and understood the above statement and have had all of my questions answered 91 100%
   No, I do not give my consent to participate in this study. 0 0%
Total Number of Choices91 
2. How would you identify your gender?    
   Male 14 16%
   Female 72 80%
   Other 4 4%
Total Number of Choices90 
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111456. Trans
111492. Queer
111597. intergendered
111613. FTM transgender
139705. Robbie
274952. rAPpJojLxyBWORMMZI
3. What is your age?    
   18-25 38 42%
   26-33 37 41%
   33-40 11 12%
   40-47 1 1%
   Other 3 3%
Total Number of Choices90 
Text Results
111489. 55
111650. just to explain I'm 33
111678. 16
111704. 55
139705. Thaddeus
191953. 15
274952. fDvLeFlMmaVbR
4. What is your ethnicity?    
   White/Caucasian 82 90%
   African American 4 4%
   Asian American 1 1%
   American Indian/Native American 0 0%
   Mexican American 1 1%
   Other 3 3%
Total Number of Choices91 
Text Results
111597. Pacific Islander
111632. Anglo-Indian
111798. White British
139705. Sheldon
274952. FGkingRmhbOv
The Sexual Attitudes Scale

Please respond to the following questions in relation to yourself. If you answer yes, it means that you support the statement. If you answer no, it means you do not support the statement. 		   
5. I do not need to be committed in a relationship to a person to have sex with him/her.    
   Yes 56 62%
   No 35 38%
Total Number of Choices91 
6. Casual sex is acceptable.    
   Yes 68 74%
   No 24 26%
Total Number of Choices92 
7. I would like to have sex with many partners.    
   Yes 35 38%
   No 57 62%
Total Number of Choices92 
8. One night stands can be very enjoyable.    
   Yes 46 51%
   No 45 49%
Total Number of Choices91 
9. It is okay to have ongoing sexual relationships with more than one person at a time.    
   Yes 52 57%
   No 39 43%
Total Number of Choices91 
10. Sex as a simple exchange of favors is okay if both people agree to it.    
   Yes 63 69%
   No 28 31%
Total Number of Choices91 
11. The best sex occurs with no strings attached.    
   Yes 7 8%
   No 83 92%
Total Number of Choices90 
12. Sex for its own sake is perfectly fine.    
   Yes 68 75%
   No 23 25%
Total Number of Choices91 
13. I would feel comfortable having intercourse with my partner in the presence of other people.    
   Yes 34 37%
   No 57 63%
Total Number of Choices91 
14. Sex without love is meaningless.    
   Yes 30 33%
   No 60 67%
Total Number of Choices90 
15. People should at least be friends before they have sex together.    
   Yes 64 70%
   No 28 30%
Total Number of Choices92 
16. In order for sex to be good, it must also be meaningful.    
   Yes 37 41%
   No 54 59%
Total Number of Choices91 
17. A sexual encounter between two people deeply in love is the ultimate human interaction.    
   Yes 53 60%
   No 36 40%
Total Number of Choices89 
18. Sexual techniques get better as a relationship progresses. (Sex gets better as the relationship progresses.)    
   Yes 74 83%
   No 15 17%
Total Number of Choices89 
19. Sex is the closest form of communication between two people.    
   Yes 34 38%
   No 56 62%
Total Number of Choices90 
20. Orgasm is the greatest experience in the world.    
   Yes 27 30%
   No 64 70%
Total Number of Choices91 
21. Life without sex would be very dull. (Sex is a very important part of life.)    
   Yes 67 74%
   No 24 26%
Total Number of Choices91 
22. Please insert here any comments or questions you have about the above section of questions.    
Total Number of Comments23 
  • (288802) - Safe and consented sex is always permissable, even for the sake of sex itself.
  • (274952) - vSgoJvSGH
  • (139705) - Howard
  • (115154) - I make a distinction between what I find acceptable for myself, and what I find acceptable for people in general. I don't have a problem with casual sex in general, it's just not for me.
  • (113272) - Sex with or without the orgasm means nothing without truely loving your partner
  • (112872) - some of these issues, like 9, are a little bit more complex than just a yes or no answer.
  • (112775) - I think casual sex, multiple partners, etc. can be okay for others but I don't personally think they are for me, and while a great sexual relationship can be an important part of a relationship, it's not a make or break deal for me (I won't date or break up with someone over sex).
  • (112008) - #18 is asking two different questions - I would say techniques get better, knowledge of partner gets better, but NRE fades, so sex not necessarily better per se.
  • (111868) - That's how I view it for myself, but I pass no judgements on the sexual inclinations of others.
  • (111841) - Sex can be and do all sorts of things. I don't care what or how it is, so long as all people involved agree to it and the situation.
  • (111719) - I found that some of these questions can not be answered accurately with a simple yes or no response.
  • (111704) - 13. It depends on who the other people are and what attitude they have towards us having sex in their presence!
  • (111678) - I have none,
  • (111640) - It's sometimes hard to pick yes or no. It really depends on each particular situation.
  • (111632) - Re #7 - no specific desire to seek out many partners, but rather to explore the connections that I find as I move through life. Re #18 - this can go both ways, as experience and understanding come with a risk of complacency!
  • (111626) - sex is best when it's meaningful between 2 people in love but it doesn't mean that a one night stand can't be hot and enjoyable!
  • (111607) - I prefer sex with very close friends and/or a romantic partner.
  • (111598) - My answers are totally contadictory...but I am 50-50 about sex and long term relationship (been married for 2 years)
  • (111586) - Question 5 should have Agree or Disagree as the answer choices. As it is there is more than one way to read the question.
  • (111561) - In reference to question 9, I would be okay with being polyamorous if I found more than one person that I loved deeply, but so far, this has not happened.
  • (111515) - I answered according to my opinion of others as well, e.g., "Sex as a simple exchange of favors is okay if both people agree to it." - I said yes because I support someone else doing so, even if I would not do so myself.
  • (111463) - Sex is great, but it's not everything
  • (111456) - Q 11 - It depends how you mean NSA - if like you mean that it doesn't have to be in a relationship, then yes. If you mean that there is no obligation to the other person(s), then no - there is at least the obligation to make the exerience enjoyable.
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The following questions are pertaining to your relationship history. These questions are mandatory.    
23. Are you currently involved in a relationship? (Required)    
   Yes 64 68%
   No 26 28%
   Other 4 4%
Total Number of Choices94 
Text Results
111456. several
111632. Multiple relationships
111704. two primary relationships
111955. not sure...
139705. Trenton
274952. zchLfztYKrGuso
24. Have you ever been involved in a relationship? (Required)    
   Yes 90 99%
   No 1 1%
   Other 0 0%
Total Number of Choices91 
Text Results
139705. Angel
274952. vvZSxDdsfpD
If you are not currently in a relationship, please skip to question 31.    
25. Has sexual intercourse occured between you and your partner or partners? If you have multiple partners, please describe your answer in the space below.    
   Yes 60 82%
   No 4 5%
   Other 9 12%
Total Number of Choices73 
Text Results
111456. Some yes, some no.
111463. One yes, regularly, the other (nearly 3 years together) no intercourse, due to some physical issues, but other oral/manual stimulation
111484. While I have had sex with my husband, I havenot had sex with my BF yet.
111487. While I have had sex with my husband, I havenot had sex with my BF yet.
111551. Sexual intercourse has occurred between me and each (separately) of my three partners.
111552. Yes, between 2 male partners, "sex" with one female partner, and no to sex with another male partner
111597. yes, for all of them
111632. All
111704. All three of us have been sexual together
111831. My husband and I engage in threesomes with one other woman
111844. sex with both of m bofriends, but never at the same time.
139705. Nelson
274952. WxhVYPsqnxBnvTEo
26. Are you satisfied with your sex life?    
   Yes 47 71%
   No 17 26%
   Other 2 3%
Total Number of Choices66 
Text Results
111704. aging has affected my libido and I miss it
112008. intermittently satisfied right now. Have been very satisfied with this partner.
139705. Ben
274952. jBLwZGZmgoinFReyS
27. Are you currently in love?    
   Yes 59 91%
   No 3 5%
   Other 3 5%
Total Number of Choices65 
Text Results
111632. With multiple people
111955. it's leaning that way...
139705. Alejandro
274952. KePDfrusrx
28. Are you currently in love with multiple people?    
   Yes 18 28%
   No 46 71%
   Other 1 2%
Total Number of Choices65 
Text Results
112008. don't get a chance to find out if I am in love with other potential partners.
139705. Antwan
274952. IDuitdba
29. How would you classify your currently relationship?    
   Monogamous/exclusive (one partner) 37 57%
   Polyamorous/open (2+ partners) 17 26%
   Other 11 17%
Total Number of Choices65 
Text Results
111489. M/s open to other slaves
111586. Monogamous but open to play with others
111592. currently monogamous, but open to nonmonogamous acts under the right circumstances.
111597. I have multiple relationships, not one relationship.
111607. I have one primary parter and we occassionally have sexual contact with close friends when all parties are informed and consent, even those not present.
111613. currently monogamous in practical terms but open to future poly partners
111831. open to females willing to participate in threesomes
111841. mono but willing to discuss including others later on.
111955. not sure...
111993. physically monogamous, emotionaly poly/open
139705. Craig
274952. xxiYFwuuV
30. What is your marital status?    
   Married 22 34%
   Single 33 51%
   Other 10 15%
Total Number of Choices65 
Text Results
111561. engaged
111576. live together
111603. engaged
111607. divorced; engaged
111608. engaged
111613. domestic partnership
111632. De facto under law; no interest in marriage under the current laws
111640. Engaged
111678. In a relationship
111704. legal civil partnership (UK)
112275. in relationship
139705. Philip
274952. vCjJUaRPrhhoD
31. Have you ever had pre-marital sexual activity (this includes sexual intercourse, as well as oral sex, anal sex, and fingering/petting)?    
   Yes 86 96%
   No 4 4%
Total Number of Choices90 
Infidelity

The following questions are in reference to activities performed outside of your current primary relationship if you are currently in a relationship or in reference to activities performed out of your last relationship if you are not currently in a relationship. Please check all that apply. 		   
32. Outside of your current primary relationship, have you ever:    
   Kissed a member of the same sex 41 10%
   Kissed a member of the opposite sex 49 12%
   Had sexual intercourse with a member of the same sex 16 4%
   Had sexual intercourse with a member of the opposite sex 28 7%
   Performed oral sex on a member of the same sex 16 4%
   Performed oral sex on a member of the opposite sex 31 8%
   Received oral sex from a member of the same sex 18 4%
   Received oral sex from a member of the opposite sex 33 8%
   Received a hand job/been fingered from/by a member of the same sex 21 5%
   Received a hand job/been fingered from/by a member of the opposite sex 35 9%
   Given a hand job/fingering to a member of the same sex 21 5%
   Given a hand job/fingering to a member of the opposite sex 35 9%
   Been romantically/emotionally involved with a member of the same sex 21 5%
   Been romantically/emotionally involved with a member of the opposite sex 40 10%
   Other 3 1%
Total Number of Choices408 
Text Results
111607. petted & been patted by a member of the same sex
111718. Hand holding.
111798. Brief online friendship became more, and I terminated it as soon as I realised, and talked it through with my partner
139705. Jadon
274952. bvcCgtfgXHCOCDDbY
33. Does the person/ the people you're involved with know what your responses would be to the aforementioned questions?    
   Yes, to all 65 75%
   Yes, to some 15 17%
   No 5 6%
   Other 2 2%
Total Number of Choices87 
Text Results
111515. n/a
111575. not currently involved
139705. Sidney
274952. oOioKmhFhlzAtxsdw
34. Would you consider anything done outside a relationship as cheating? If so, what? Please type your answer in the other box. (Required)    
   Yes 48 48%
   No 15 15%
   Other 37 37%
Total Number of Choices100 
Text Results
111456. Depends on what people have negotiated on. For me and my current relationships, no.
111463. If you never tell your partner(s) about it - I always do the next time I talk to them (we don't have the check-first rule)
111484. It would be cheating if my partners didn't know what was going on, or if I went against stated agreements (such as having unprotected sex with anyone other than my husband).
111487. It would be cheating if my partners didn't know what was going on, or if I went against stated agreements (such as having unprotected sex with anyone other than my husband).
111489. cheating if kept secret
111492. If there were no agreements negotiated and followed, then it would be cheating
111498. It depends wholly on the terms of the relationship.
111503. It's only cheating if the other partner isnt in agreement with what is happening.
111515. kissing on up
111517. anything that's done without the partner's knowledge
111522. Anything that does not fit the parameters agreed to by the partners in the relationship.
111534. ANYTHING where there is a strong physical or emotional connection with someone as more than a friend.
111538. having an emotional connection with a member of the opposite sex as well as any type of sexual activity
111542. all the above in ques. 32
111551. Anything done outside of the relationship that my partners would have a problem with would be considered cheating to me.
111552. Anything not negotiated. It doesn't have to be ahead of time, but my partner has to know what's going on with me and someone else or it's cheating.
111561. It depends on the agreement between all parties involved.
111570. All of it.
111571. It isi cheating if you are in a monogamous relationship or if you do not let your partner(s) know what you are doing.
111574. Anything is cheating if the person lies about it, even if it is just flirting
111575. something the other person didn't know about/approve of
111576. It wouldn't be if the other knew about it before it happened.
111586. As long as each partner is aware of and agrees to the others actions, there is no cheating going on.
111592. yes, if it wasn't something we'd agreed upon ahead of time
111595. sex, kissing, flirting
111597. anything done without the consent of one's other partners
111598. everything except kissing if it is not passionate and meaningless
111599. anything kissing and on up
111600. anything other than a kiss
111607. Cheating is defined by the people involved. Betraying someone's trust (ie. breaking pre-decided terms) is cheating.
111613. Anything that goes against explicitly made prior agreements
111626. if the partner has not consented, then it's cheating.
111632. Cheating is violation of agreements, so can occur in polyamorous relationships. If, for example, I started sleeping with someone without letting my partners know, or violated our safer sex agreements, I would have cheated. Informed consent is the key.
111640. It would be considered cheating if your relationship partner did not know about it and you did not discuss it with your relationship partner.
111649. Only without the other partner's consent
111650. I only consider it cheating if primary does not know about it
111651. Any of the items in question 32.
111704. Whenever it breaks a relationship agreement
111719. Question is unclear. Define "anything".
111737. No- not if it's done in fun AND in front of the S.O/spouse with their approval
111742. kissing
111799. Depends on the negotiated terms of the relationship
111800. anything your partner is not aware of ahead of time and has had time to discuss with you
111831. sex with another man
111841. if the other person doesn't know- yes.
111844. If I don't know about it/approve beforehand, then it's cheating.
111871. depends on what is done or if you've talked about having an open relationship
111955. perhaps less than "cheating" but certainly a betrayal of trust...
111993. Any involvement without one's partner(s) full knowledge and consent
112008. not if partner is aware of outside activities
112775. Anything - from emotionally involved on the same level to kissing to sex - but this is assuming the relationship is not open and the partner is not aware, there has to be some betrayal involved
112872. anything either physical or even emotional when you're with someone who isn't your partner and you feel that if they were there, they wouldn't like it.
113719. Making out with or participating in any sexual activity with anyone other than myself without first clearing it with me would be cheating.
113809. No, kissing a friend, etc. would not be cheating. Also, each relationship has its own rules. It all depends.
139705. Osvaldo
144098. KISSING OR SLEEPING WITH SOMEONE
274952. aHqPouoXxdvdAix
288802. Prostitutes can offer that little niche you can't get within the relationship.
The following questions will ask you to describe your sexual preference and identity. Please select only one option that describes you best.    
35. How would you describe your sexual attraction. Who are you sexually attracted to?    
   Opposite sex only 15 16%
   Opposite sex mostly 25 26%
   Opposite sex somewhat more 17 18%
   Both sexes equally 21 22%
   Same sex somewhat more 7 7%
   Same sex mostly 4 4%
   Same sex only 0 0%
   Other 6 6%
Total Number of Choices95 
Text Results
111456. there are more that two sexes, ya know?
111492. I am attracted to people, not genders
111592. it's complicated
111607. I am more physically attracted to the same sex, and more emotionally attracted to the opposite sex.
111613. Mostly women, occasionally men
111632. Attracted to people, not genders
111704. dominant partners of either sex in preference to submissive partners of either sex
139705. Rohan
274952. HCwMgrEjAN
36. With whom do you have sex?    
   Opposite sex only 32 34%
   Opposite sex mostly 27 29%
   Opposite sex somewhat more 11 12%
   Both sexes equally 9 10%
   Same sex somewhat more 2 2%
   Same sex mostly 1 1%
   Same sex only 2 2%
   Other 9 10%
Total Number of Choices93 
Text Results
111484. This has ben the situation thus far, but I'm open to that changing in the future.
111487. This has ben the situation thus far, but I'm open to that changing in the future.
111492. Queer people do not fit into any of these categories.
111551. I'm open to an experience with a man, it just hasn't happened yet.
111566. Only one peron
111576. Would consider same sex
111592. it's complicated
111595. no one yet
111607. I have a primary relationship with a member of the opposite sex, but sometimes am involved with members of the same sex.
111613. Mostly women, occasionally men
111798. Partner is transgendered
111868. I do not believe in sexual intercourse of a premarital nature.
139705. Terence
274952. efUOnVJCUYpS
37. The third variable is sexual fantasy. Whether they occur during masturbation, while daydreaming, as part of our real lives or purely in our imaginations, fantasies provide insight. Who do you have sexual fantasies about?    
   Opposite sex only 16 17%
   Opposite sex mostly 17 18%
   Opposite sex somewhat more 16 17%
   Both sexes equally 23 24%
   Same sex somewhat more 9 9%
   Same sex mostly 7 7%
   Same sex only 1 1%
   Other 6 6%
Total Number of Choices95 
Text Results
111461. transexuals
111492. Queer people do not fit into these categories.
111498. I am not usually in my own fantasies.
111586. My fantasies are often homosexual in nature, either male or female, and often do not include me.
111704. being submissive
111798. Varies - often go through short or long cycles
139705. Elias
274952. AKRZhKpoLEkBbvcdQO
38. Our emotions directly influence, if not define, the actual physical act of love. Ask yourself if you love and like only the opposite sex or if you are also emotionally close to the same sex. Who are you emotionally attracted to?    
   Opposite sex only 14 15%
   Opposite sex mostly 19 21%
   Opposite sex somewhat more 15 16%
   Both sexes equally 26 28%
   Same sex somewhat more 8 9%
   Same sex mostly 7 8%
   Same sex only 0 0%
   Other 3 3%
Total Number of Choices92 
Text Results
111492. Queer people do not fit into any of these categories.
111607. I have significantly more same-sex friendships and moderately more opposite sex romantic partners
111613. Exclusively women, so far
111719. This question is also unclear. Are you referring to past relationships or who I will be attracted to in the future?
139705. Scotty
274952. izxemUZxFoBEWocyp
39. Though closely allied to emotional preference, social preference is often different. You may love only women but spend most of your social life with men. Some people, of all orientations, only socialize with their own sex, while others socialize with the opposite gender exclusively. Who do you socialize with?    
   Opposite sex only 2 2%
   Opposite sex mostly 13 14%
   Opposite sex somewhat more 20 22%
   Both sexes equally 27 30%
   Same sex somewhat more 15 17%
   Same sex mostly 12 13%
   Same sex only 0 0%
   Other 1 1%
Total Number of Choices90 
Text Results
111492. Queer people do not fit into any of these categories.
139705. Roderick
274952. KFRjASuO
40. Your sexual self-definition is a strong variable since self-image strongly affects our thoughts and actions. How would you identify youself?    
   Heterosexual only 16 16%
   Heterosexual mostly 19 19%
   Heterosexual somewhat more 4 4%
   Bisexual 43 44%
   Gay somewhat more 4 4%
   Gay mostly 1 1%
   Gay only 0 0%
   Other 11 11%
Total Number of Choices98 
Text Results
111456. queer
111461. pansexual
111492. Queer.
111586. Pansexual. I don't care what parts you have in what combination.
111592. it varies
111595. pansexual? genderblind?
111599. homoflexible
111603. no preference
111632. Queer
111704. submissive
111719. I do not identify with any of these labels.
111844. Bi-curious
139705. Damion
274952. fytFIUFVRkbsGrjnjCw
41. Some heterosexuals only have sex with the opposite sex but prefer to spend the majority of their time with gay people. On the other hand, homosexual or bisexual persons may prefer to live exclusively in the gay world, the heterosexual world, or even to live in both worlds. Lifestyle is the seventh variable of sexual orientation. Where do you tend to spend time and with whom?    
   Heterosexual only 4 4%
   Heterosexual mostly 26 27%
   Heterosexual somewhat more 34 35%
   Bisexual 13 13%
   Gay somewhat more 4 4%
   Gay mostly 1 1%
   Gay only 0 0%
   Other 16 16%
Total Number of Choices98 
Text Results
111456. the queer community is awesome
111461. pretty well split but still mostly men in general
111484. It varies greatly. I have friends all up and down the sexuality spectrum and it's not really a factor in who I am friends with.
111487. It varies greatly. I have friends all up and down the sexuality spectrum and it's not really a factor in who I am friends with.
111492. Queer people do not fit into any of these categories.
111575. pretty equal mix of everyone
111586. My oreference is mixed company, but right now it seems like I am spending too much time with heteros.
111599. Everyone!
111607. Statistically, more of my friends are straight than bi and more are bi than gay, but bisexuality is treated like a default.
111610. it varies... no set answer for me
111632. A mix of all of the above as well as queer, trans, etc.
111719. Sexual identity is not a factor when I make friends with a person.
111798. In previous location, predominantly bi, gay, and trans social group; very few out people in this area
111841. It's all one world. But since I'm married most of those around me are hetero, the gay world doesn't always accept me and it's hard to find Bi.
111844. would love to spend more time with homosexuals/bisexuals, but it just doesn't seem to happen (due to my current social contacts)
111871. I do not have control over the sexual preference of the people I am around, I don't know the sexual preference of most of the people I come in contact with during my day. Do you mean,who do I socialize with in my free time?
113719. My social circle consists of an equarl array of gay, heterosexual, and bisexual individuals.
113809. About equal amounts of time in Gay and heterosexual. There aren't many out bisexuals in my area, or I would try to hang out with them more than I do.
139705. Sammy
274952. ABzHUCRP
42. Your feedback is very important. Please fill in the comment box below if you have any suggestions or constructive criticism. Also feel free to e-mail the researcher at cjones28@towson.edu if you would like a one-on-one discussion in more depth about this project. Thanks for participating!    
Total Number of Comments10 
  • (288802) - Hopefully the results help you.
  • (274952) - tDHddjyqjGAEPjZx
  • (139705) - Dylon
  • (112775) - Just thought I'd point out that although Klein's sexual orientation grid takes into account the fluidity of sexual orientation and identity better as well as more than just sexual behavior, it is still not perfect since it relies on on defining one's self by the gender we're attracted to when gender identity is greater than just two categories. As always, there's also a problem with having a limited number of responses (what's the difference between 'heterosexual mostly' and 'heterosexual somewhat more'?) but that's a persistent problem in research. I love sexual and gender identity research! Go you!
  • (112008) - i'm finding it easiest to answer when drunk. i think that says more about me than about your survey though.
  • (111718) - On the subject of Fantasies how does sensual ones (ones that do not involve any of the actions you described) fit into your survey?
  • (111704) - On the subject of cheating - it can only be defined for me in terms of breaking of agreements. If I agree to ask permission before having sex with someone, for example, and then go ahead without asking then that's cheating!
  • (111626) - i'm assuming that in question 32, "outside of the relationship" means things you've done outside the relationship while in the relationship and not before or after?
  • (111599) - I know you're trying to be open, and still quantifiable, so I can't really fault it, but it seems like this survey is a little black and white. THere need to be more large comment boxes like this one to explain things.
  • (111598) - Good luck with your research!!! Survey was done really well!
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